Tag: Self Reflection

Catatan Akhir (Kuliah) S2

Beberapa bulan terakhir, saya menerima pertanyaan dari beberapa rekan tentang bagaimana rasanya kuliah S2 bareng suami dan punya bayi. Lebih tepatnya, how did we do it? How did we survive? 😀

Saya tidak langsung merespons.

Sebagian karena saya sendiri sudah hampir lupa. Ngomong-ngomong, saya kuliah master tahun 2011-2012 jadi sudah lebih dari lima tahun yang lalu. Sebagian karena saya sendiri tidak tahu jawabannya. 😅

Really. At some points I don’t know THE answer.

Semuanya berjalan, berlalu dan terlewati begitu saja tanpa metode yang berarti.

Perlu diketahui sebelumnya, saya dan suami kuliah S2 di Edith Cowan University (ECU) Australia barat dengan beasiswa dari Australia Awards Scholarship (AAS) yang waktu itu masih bernama Australia Development Scholarship (ADS) angkatan 2009. Sewaktu mendaftar, saya baru saja menikah dengan Zaki, dan sedang dalam proses menunggu beberapa seleksi yang lain. Sebut saja Erasmus Mundus, Amsterdam Merit Scholarship dan beberapa yang lain. Continue reading “Catatan Akhir (Kuliah) S2” →

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My Life as a PhD Student’s Wife

If you think life as a PhD student is so hard, you’re absolutely, 100%, unquestionably, RIGHT!

The truth is, it’s super hard it makes the life as his/her partner is NOT easy either! 😄

I’m writing this not to complain about my current situation. Among all, I’m sincerely happy and grateful for whatever happened in the last two years since the day my husband started his PhD journey in Lund University, Sweden.

But, I feel like this is another level of relationship I’ve been dwelling in, by far. So I think it’s a good idea to write it down for a self reflection and to shout out to all PhD student’s partners out there:

I feel you! 😉

Continue reading “My Life as a PhD Student’s Wife” →

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Sepatu

Wajah saya mendadak sumingrah saat kami melewati satu toko di Klostergatan. Sayapun berhenti sebentar. Menatap etalase di depan saya dengan mata berbinar. “Waaaahhhh, bagus banget sepatunya,” kata saya sambil menunjuk sepatu boots berbahan kulit dan berwarna dusty pink. Suami saya hanya tersenyum kecil lalu berujar: “Ada apa sih dengan kamu dan sepatu?”

Ya. “Ada apa dengan saya dan sepatu?”. Pertanyaan itu juga kerap saya ajukan ke diri saya sendiri. Di antara sekian banyak aksesoris yang diidentikkan dengan wanita, saya paling mudah tergoda oleh sepatu. Koleksi saya bukan sangat banyak. Karena bagaimanapun, obsesi seringkali dibatasai oleh keadaan dan kemampuan. Haha. Jadi seberapapun terobsesinya saya dengan sepatu, saya tak sampai harus punya lemari khusus. Meskipun, harus saya akui, saya pernah punya puluhan alas kaki di waktu yang bersamaan (dulu sebelum negara api menyerang 😀 ). Continue reading “Sepatu” →

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Mrs Fantastic

On our way home the other day, my daughter and I had a small talk like we always had. We discussed this and that and she excitedly told me about the unit she’s currently doing: “Human Body” and how she did a research on skeleton as part of the unit. That day she said that an adult has 206 bones while a new born baby has 300+ bones which eventually fuse to form the adult bones and that’s why the number is decreased. My comment was: “Wow, I didn’t know about that. Well done.”

Later she asked: “Do you think Ayah knows?”

“I don’t know. You can ask him when we’ve arrived at home,”

“But Ayah is very smart. He’s so intellectual and knowledgeable. Maybe he knows already,” she replied reluctantly.

“Yes, you’re right. He’s super smart. But it doesn’t mean that he knows everything. You can still tell him that information. I’m sure he will be very happy to hear it.” Continue reading “Mrs Fantastic” →

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What to Expect the First Year (in Sweden)*

People say the first year of everything is actually the hardest. What about the first year living in Sweden? Well, it’s not easy, I must say. But, if you know what to expect, you will know how to deal with that.

  1. Bureaucracy

Welcome to Sweden!

First thing first: get your personnumer and your Swedish ID as soon as possible. These two things are essential for your new life in Sweden. Brace yourself during these times, as Skatteverket will be your number one office to visit. Expect a long queue so come to the office early. Make sure you provide every document they need and double check no document is missed. Then, whenever you are in doubt, ask!

I know that coming to Skatteverket office over and over can be really exhausting (and boring!), but it is unquestionably important to keep your eyes on the whole process. I personally had quite an experience with Skatteverket when my personnumer application was rejected but I didn’t know it sooner because for some reasons I didn’t receive the rejection letter. Later I knew it was because my residence permit was almost expired at that time so I needed to renew it first to be able to apply for personnumer. Thus, if you found something suspicious with your application, like the duration of the process or no reply after two weeks, do not hesitate to check it in nearby Skatteverket office. Continue reading “What to Expect the First Year (in Sweden)*” →

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