Post-natal Reflection

Hari Minggu (17/2) kemarin, Baby K genap dua bulan. Di hari itu awalnya saya berniat menuliskan refleksi paska kelahiran. Sekalian memperingati ulang bulan. Cocoklah momennya, pikir saya. Tapi karena satu dan dua hal (baca: rutinitas ibu baru dan tanggungan pekerjaan yang mesti segera dirampungkan 😅), akhirnya saya baru sempat menuliskan refleksi hari ini, alias telat 3 hari dari rencana semula. Tak apalah, namanya juga manusia, hanya bisa merencanakan 😀

Sejak melahirkan Baby K tengah Desember lalu, saya menyadari beberapa hal terkait status saya sebagai ibu baru (lagi). Pertama, punya anak kedua dengan jarak cukup jauh ternyata membawa keuntungan dan tantangannya sendiri. Keuntungannya adalah, si anak sulung sudah lebih mandiri, lebih siap punya adik, dan bahkan bisa dimintai tolong ini-itu. Meskipun, tentu saja dia tetap anak-anak. Yang masih suka cari perhatian. Masih mengeluh kalau dikit-dikit adiknya. Atau minimal bertanya apakah dia boleh tidur di kamar utama dan bukan di kamarnya sendiri.

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Crush

Zaki and I had a bedtime talk the other day, about me who had just changed my current crush from Alexander Skarsgård to Thomas Beaudoin. He found it’s bit strange because I change my crush like a girl changes her dress (yeah, just like that Katy Perry’s song 😆). Very quickly.

Unlike him who’s “committed” to Jennifer Aniston since F.R.I.E.N.D.S was still the biggest show on TV (I know. It’s so last year, right? Told Zaki already!). None of my crushes stayed for more than a month. I’m too easy to fall for someone indeed. I watch a movie for once and I can instantly crazy over one of the characters. It’s been like that since forever. I once obsessed with Jude Law, Matthew Goode, Hugh Grant, Hugh Jackman, Josh Hutcherson, Miles Teller, Armie Hammer, Shah Rukh Khan, Chris Pratt, Alexander Skarsgård and the list went on. Currently, I’m smitten by a Canadian actor: Thomas Beaudoin which I first noticed from a cheesy romantic comedy on Netflix 😅. But I’m 100% sure it won’t last long. Give me few weeks and I will easily move to another crush. Haha. That’s just how it is. Easy come, easy go.

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30 Something and Over It

Looking back on the birthdays I had in the last 31 years, I realized how life around me has changed, and changed the way I see my life as well.

I personally think that birthday is a paradox moment. The day when we feel happy on one side because there’s no other day that is more ours than that day. But, on the other side, we also feel sad or at least worried to know that we are older than before. Ha. (Somebody pass me that anti aging cream, please! 😆 )

I don’t celebrate birthday often. Not in a way it’s usually celebrated. There is no big celebration tradition in my family. Birthday is just like any other day. Though I remember, there were some small birthday parties when I was a little kid. The simple parties with the same routine: my mom bought two regular cakes, stacked them, then decorated them with fresh flowers and leaves ( yes, no fancy icing whatsoever. I didn’t even know that black forest cake was exist at that time 😂 ), or we would buy something special for dinner like chicken satay or Javanese noodle, then took a family picture. Just like that. Sometimes I got presents. Sometimes I didn’t. But it didn’t really matter. The happiness was still mine because I was surrounded by the people I love and love me back.

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Tentang Pulang dan Lebaran

Bagi banyak orang, terutama di Indonesia, Lebaran adalah tentang pulang ke kampung halaman. Saat di mana seluruh keluarga berkumpul dan larut dalam hiruk pikuk kebahagiaan usai menuntaskan (setidaknya) 29 hari puasa Ramadan. Lebaran, pulang, rumah dan keluarga, adalah kata-kata yang tidak bisa dipisahkan satu sama lain. Saling berkelindan. Saling menyempurnakan.

Sayangnya, Lebaran tahun ini adalah kali ketiga saya tidak pulang. Biasanya, saya, suami dan anak kami merayakan Lebaran di rumah orang tua saya, atau di rumah orang tua suami saya, secara bergantian. Tapi tahun ini, karena kami sedang ngangsu kawruh di belahan bumi utara, maka Lebaran kami rayakan bertiga saja, dan dengan beberapa teman-teman di sini. Meski demikian saya bersyukur, karena tahun ini setidaknya kami bisa merayakan Lebaran secara bersama-sama. Tidak seperti tahun lalu ketika saya dan anak merayakan Lebaran di Indonesia, sementara suami sendirian menjalani Idul Fitri di Swedia. Bagaimanapun, rumah bagi kami adalah ketika kami utuh bersama sebagai keluarga. Home is wherever we are together. 

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Puasa (Hampir) 20 Jam

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Ini kali kedua saya menjalani puasa bukan di Indonesia. Kali pertama adalah periode 2011-2012 silam, saat saya menempuh studi di pesisir barat Australia. Ber-Ramadan bukan di kampung halaman sebenarnya bukan hal baru buat saya. Maklum, sejak SMA, saya sudah tinggal terpisah dengan orang tua (waktu itu saya ikut bulik di Jogja sementara orang tua saya di Wonosari), jadi tidak setiap hari di bulan suci saya bisa menjalaninya di rumah orang tua. Begitu juga ketika sudah menikah, saya lebih banyak berpuasa di rumah sendiri. Paling-paling saya pulang di awal Ramadan atau di akhir Ramadan. Tergantung Lebarannya mau di rumah orang tua saya atau di rumah mertua.

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Life as We Know It

Some people tend to think that living overseas is all about traveling and those fun things. In fact, living far from home is also about rethinking the life itself.

Living overseas giving you space. Space to realize things you previously took for granted. Food, for example. In Indonesia, finding Indonesian cook is never an issue (obviously!). They are cheap, and good and easy to get. No wonder some people cooked rarely, including me 😀 . They prefer to buy foods from restaurants or diners because it is way simpler and cheaper, especially for those mouth-watering Indonesian street foods.

When I wanted martabak manis/terang bulan (Indonesian pancake), I could grab it easily from the nearest food stall. When I was craving for cilok (Indonesian meatball-like snack) I could just buy it instead of make it. No hassle. Totally comfort zone.

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Australia or Sweden?

During my first weeks in Lund, every time I met new people, they always asked me same question: “What do you think about Sweden?”

It sounds like a simple question, but honestly, it is hard for me to answer. Not because I don’t like Sweden, but because I never really ask myself about that. I mean that’s question just never crossed my mind before. Of course I like Sweden. Especially Lund. Yes, the winter can be so long and freezing, but the rest is good. And I’m not that cynical person who tends to complain or criticize everything. I’m more that silver-lining person who chooses to enjoy every moment while it last. So my typical answer is: “Well, I think I like it. I mean I don’t have any concern so far. And yes it’s bit quiet compare to Indonesia and Australia but I like having new experiences.”

Then, after knowing that I’ve been lived in Australia, they started to ask for more comparison between Sweden and Australia. This is even harder to do. I don’t like playing favorite. Australia for me is like grandma’s house where I spent most of my childhood and I’d love to visit three or four times in a year. While Sweden is where I live now, it’s my current home, why wouldn’t I love it?

But if you really want to know the differences between Australia and Sweden, based on my personal perspective, here is what I think:

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