First Decade of Forever

Thursday (7/3) was me and Zaki’s 10th wedding anniversary. I can’t believe myself it’s been a decade.

Zaki and I met in 2006. We instantly connected and developed feeling for each other. It wasn’t long for us to decide that we want to be together, which is kinda weird because theoretically speaking, we’re two strong willed people who supposedly can’t get along well. Ha! We have irreconcilable differences that are quite contrast from each other. My easy going nature, for instance, will not match his Mr Planner personality.

But here we are. Together for almost 13 years. Married for 10 years (and counting!)

Anyway, I was bit uncertain about this year’s anniversary gift. I mean after several years, your idea of gift is likely to turn from romantic to functional 😀 . But, this is our first decade. I want something different. I want something personal. Something that will be saved in our memory bank for years. 

Then, there was a pop up ad on Facebook about LoveBookOnline.

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Love’s Most Frequent Question | Yang Sering Kita Tanyakan, tentang Cinta

We often ask ourself what love really is. A definite question for which everyone comes up with different answer.

They say it’s a commitment.

They believe it’s a trust.

They claim it’s a friendship.

They define it as an acceptance.

For Zaki and me, love is THIS.

Whatever we have and share in the last 12 years. The thing that binds us together no matter what we’ve been through. Love is the way he makes me laugh the loudest and cry the saddest, and vice versa. Love is whenever we argue, we fight, and we hate each other, just to finally realise that we’re only two stubborn persons who can’t live, normally, without one another.

For us, love is about finding all the possible definitions, together.

Happy wedding anniversary, Zaki! Cheers to the answers we’ve defined and a lot more we are yet to find!

Lund, March 7, 2018

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My Life as a PhD Student’s Wife

If you think life as a PhD student is so hard, you’re absolutely, 100%, unquestionably, RIGHT!

The truth is, it’s super hard it makes the life as his/her partner is NOT easy either! 😄

I’m writing this not to complain about my current situation. Among all, I’m sincerely happy and grateful for whatever happened in the last two years since the day my husband started his PhD journey in Lund University, Sweden.

But, I feel like this is another level of relationship I’ve been dwelling in, by far. So I think it’s a good idea to write it down for a self reflection and to shout out to all PhD student’s partners out there:

I feel you! 😉

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When Ms Random meets Mr Planner

Saat-saat ketika merencanakan perjalanan adalah saat-saat di mana saya semakin menyadari betapa sesungguhnya saya dan suami adalah pribadi yang sangat bertolak belakang. Saya adalah manusia random. Happy go lucky person yang percaya bahwa semesta telah diatur sedemikian rupa. Cenderung mengalir saja tanpa perencanaan. Sementara suami adalah Mr Planner sejati. Sangat perhatian pada detail dan memiliki manajemen resiko yang terlalu tinggi. Hampir semua hal dalam hidupnya melalui perencanaan matang. Satu-satunya hal spontan yang pernah dia lakukan (yang masih dia ingat) adalah menjadikan saya sebagai pacarnya meski baru beberapa minggu kenal. Haha. Dan ini yang biasanya menjadi kartu AS saya untuk mengingatkan bahwa beberapa hal baik justru dimulai dari sebuah kesertamertaan (ahem!).

Tentu saja sebagai pasangan kami juga saling memengaruhi. Saya tak lagi anti rencana. Sementara dia mulai bisa menerima fakta bahwa tidak semua hal bisa ia kendalikan. Tapi tetap saja, yang namanya karakter dasar tidak bisa 100% diubah. Saya masih kerap ceroboh dan masa bodoh. Suami masih suka khawatir berlebih dan uring-uringan. Dan karakter dasar itu semakin menguat justru ketika kami dihadapkan pada satu hal yang sama-sama kami sukai: traveling!

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Cinta dalam Secangkir Kopi

Belakangan ini, aku sering memesan kopi kesukaanmu.

Kopi berasa yang kau tahu pasti tak pernah kusuka.

Tapi aku memesannya bukan karena telah berganti selera.

Aku memesannya karena cinta. Karena kita.

 

Ya, kita.

 

Dengan memesannya, kubayangkan kau tengah duduk di sampingku.

Menikmati setiap teguk kopi favoritmu itu.

Dengan memesannya, kuharapkan kau ada di sisiku.

Memelukku dengan secangkir kopi di tangan kananmu.

 

Kau tahu aku bukan penggemar kopi berasa.

Akulah penikmat kopi sebenar-benarnya.

Tapi demi sepotong rinduku padamu,

Kurelakan diri memesan kopi yang sama denganmu

 

“Can I have a cup of hazelnut latte, please?”

 

Jogja-Lund

3 Juni 2016

Photo by Zaki Habibi