Looking back on the birthdays I had in the last 31 years, I realized how life around me has changed, and changed the way I see my life as well.
I personally think that birthday is a paradox moment. The day when we feel happy on one side because there’s no other day that is more ours than that day. But, on the other side, we also feel sad or at least worried to know that we are older than before. Ha. (Somebody pass me that anti aging cream, please! 😆 )
I don’t celebrate birthday often. Not in a way it’s usually celebrated. There is no big celebration tradition in my family. Birthday is just like any other day. Though I remember, there were some small birthday parties when I was a little kid. The simple parties with the same routine: my mom bought two regular cakes, stacked them, then decorated them with fresh flowers and leaves ( yes, no fancy icing whatsoever. I didn’t even know that black forest cake was exist at that time 😂 ), or we would buy something special for dinner like chicken satay or Javanese noodle, then took a family picture. Just like that. Sometimes I got presents. Sometimes I didn’t. But it didn’t really matter. The happiness was still mine because I was surrounded by the people I love and love me back.
Saya tidak tahu apakah ini perasaan saya saja, atau rata-rata orang tua di luar sana juga merasakan hal yang sama. Tapi saya merasa, menjadi orang tua sering menempatkan kita pada situasi yang kompleks. Antara mau begini. Tapi juga begitu. Ingin yang ini. Tapi mau juga yang itu. Kita sebut saja perasaan kompleks itu sebagai dilema.
Dalam hal masa depan anak misalnya. Setiap orang tua menginginkan yang terbaik untuk anaknya. Kita mendoakan, membimbing dan mengarahkan. Tapi sebagai orang tua juga, saya sadar, bahwa hidup anak saya sepenuhnya adalah hak dia. Kita tidak berhak memaksa dia menjalani apa yang kita mau atau memaksa mereka untuk mewujudkan mimpi-mimpi kita yang belum/tidak terpenuhi. Makanya saya termasuk yang tidak terlalu suka mengajari anak saya banyak hal tanpa persetujuan darinya. Mungkin karena saya sendiri juga malas belajar, haha, sehingga saya tahu tidak enaknya diajari tanpa kita sendiri mau. Tidak terkecuali dalam hal belajar bahasa.
One fine morning, Milla and Mayana played football in their backyard. They loved playing football. When they were playing, they saw a letter falling in the ground. They picked it up and went inside the house. They told their mom and dad about it. Their parents opened the letter and read it for a minute. Milla and Mayana were so curious so they asked: “Who is the letter from?”. Her dad said: “It’s from the Queen!” Milla and Mayana were so surprised. They were so happy to know that they’d been invited to visit the queen in her castle. The next morning they put their luggages in the car and went to the airport.
In the airport they were waiting in the waiting room until it was time for boarding. Milla and Mayana went inside the plane. They were super excited to meet the queen. In the plane, they ate lunch. Milla had sausage with rice and Mayana had egg with fried rice. After had her lunch finished, Milla asked her mom: “Where are we going to meet the Queen?” Her mom said: “In Paris”.
Saat-saat ketika merencanakan perjalanan adalah saat-saat di mana saya semakin menyadari betapa sesungguhnya saya dan suami adalah pribadi yang sangat bertolak belakang. Saya adalah manusia random. Happy go luckyperson yang percaya bahwa semesta telah diatur sedemikian rupa. Cenderung mengalir saja tanpa perencanaan. Sementara suami adalah Mr Planner sejati. Sangat perhatian pada detail dan memiliki manajemen resiko yang terlalu tinggi. Hampir semua hal dalam hidupnya melalui perencanaan matang. Satu-satunya hal spontan yang pernah dia lakukan (yang masih dia ingat) adalah menjadikan saya sebagai pacarnya meski baru beberapa minggu kenal. Haha. Dan ini yang biasanya menjadi kartu AS saya untuk mengingatkan bahwa beberapa hal baik justru dimulai dari sebuah kesertamertaan (ahem!).
Tentu saja sebagai pasangan kami juga saling memengaruhi. Saya tak lagi anti rencana. Sementara dia mulai bisa menerima fakta bahwa tidak semua hal bisa ia kendalikan. Tapi tetap saja, yang namanya karakter dasar tidak bisa 100% diubah. Saya masih kerap ceroboh dan masa bodoh. Suami masih suka khawatir berlebih dan uring-uringan. Dan karakter dasar itu semakin menguat justru ketika kami dihadapkan pada satu hal yang sama-sama kami sukai: traveling!
When it comes to summer, Swedes knows how to make the most of it. It’s of course understandable, since summer doesn’t last long here and winter can be unbearable. So they definitely don’t want to miss the summer moments. Travel to sandy beaches, go for kayaking in national parks, or enjoying the days in summer houses are parts of the summer essentials in Sweden.
Unfortunately, for a small city like Lund, where most of the inhabitants are students, summer is also a quiet moment as most people leave the city for summer holiday. Even some stores are closed (or at least closed early) during summer. Locals call it as sommarstängt which literally means closed for/during summer. So, how are the best ways to enjoy summer in Lund? Well, here are what I do:
Once upon a time, Milla woke up from bed. She ate breakfast and woke Mayana up. She told her that she was going to have a ballet class that day. Mayana wanted to join too so Milla allowed her and took Mayana with her. They two got ready then went to the ballet school. On their way to school, Mayana asked Milla: “What’s the name of the school?”
Milla said: “Skölan”
After half an hour they arrived at the school and went inside. Milla showed Mayana where the class was. They went inside the class but the teacher wasn’t there. Milla’s friend, Naia, said that the teacher was late so all the children waited for her.Few minutes later the teacher came so the children prepared to dance. Mayana was so happy to learn ballet. They all danced happily until they didn’t realised that it was time to get home. Milla and Mayana tidied their stuffs up quickly and went home together.